Experts say there has never been more perfectionists in the world than in the time we live in now.
This feature is particularly pronounced in the millennials as a generation, leading to serious consequences, as the increasing rate of depression and suicide, say psychologists.
Every perfectionism is not bad, they stress. The positive side is when you have ambitions that lead you to success. You know that the more effort you make, the greater the chances of achieving your goals.
Psychologists call this healthy form of perfectionism a “resistance factor”, and the point is that “you have the ability to ‘gather’ and when you do not reach the goal and continue to strive for it, even when you encounter obstacles or you are experiencing failure. ”
Professional athletes are the best example of this kind of perfectionism.
On the other hand, unhealthy perfectionism or inadequate perfectionism means that you aim for very high goals and you have a very strong negative reaction if you do not achieve that goal.
If you think that your behavior falls into an unapproved perfectionism, that is, it turns into unhealthy pressure on yourself, there are several ways to prevent that constant feeling that you are not good enough.
Realize that perfectionism is an illusion
Remember that perfection is impossible and unachievable. Instead of criticizing yourself for not doing something as you have imagined, remember that the most realistic goal you can set is to always do your best.
In other words, try in some less important situations to make deliberate minor mistakes.
If you notice an unsuitable perfectionism in your relationship, decide in which spheres of life you want to be “perfect” and be flexible in other situations. It’s kind of an agreement with yourself.
Focus on the process, not the result
Typical for perfectionists is to focus on the final product, the result, so they forget how much time they devoted to the thing.
It often leads people to have no motivation and to shift for not achieving a high goal.
Celebrate every step
Enjoy every little victory you make on your way to your goal. You can do this by practicing presence at the moment.
Practice to appreciate all the small steps that you do every day, rather than concentrating on the big picture.
Stop by self-censorship
Self-criticism, as well as perfectionism, can be healthy in certain quantities. But in overdoses, constant self-censure is a component of unhealthy perfectionism.
Over time, you will start to believe that you are telling yourself – and that’s that we are not good enough.
It is difficult to stop self-criticism and psychologists say this step is the most difficult for overworked perfectionists.
Put yourself in the first place and not sacrifice your well-being, health, and happiness to achieve a goal whose pleasure is transient.
Lastly, if you think that you can not deal with this problem on your own, and you want to resolve it, do not be ashamed to seek help from an expert, as a psychologist or psychotherapist.